When you hire a stylist or wardrobe expert it’s like sitting in the best psychiatrist’s office in town. When a woman comes to me, feeling insecure, depressed, and suffering with body image issues, they are opening up their lives to me, entrusting me with their bodies and depending on me for a resolution. It’s a resolution that often times comes very quickly, and almost seems too good to be true. Well it’s not. It happens that a single piece of clothing can resolve those uncertainties that some woman have. I listen to their anxieties, their concerns and I can’t leave my clients until I feel they’re in a better place mentally about how they look.
Being a stylist and consultant for over 25 years, I have definitely seen my share of “over shoppers” and this is the woman that simply doesn’t know what to buy, keeps buying the same things over and over and is stuck in her comfort zone. Recently I was hired by a 30-something, successful, attractive Mom, she had nothing more than 25 ribbed turtlenecks, in every color imaginable and Ann Taylor trousers that she wore like a religious school girl. This was all of her wardrobe and she wasn’t happy, but was afraid to try anything different… She assumed this was all that would look good on her, but much to her surprise when I got done with her, she had a whole new wardrobe, new look, new attitude and a surge of confidence that immediately her peers took notice of…
Take the time to hire a stylist, go shopping and break the habit of hiding in black or too big of things that mask your figure. Try to break out of your established set of colors, shapes and styles you already have a ton of. You don’t have to keep up with what the latest trend imposes, but find a balance, create and blend new things into your own personal style, because the only you risk is being pleasantly surprised and gaining many compliments.
The advice I leave them with is don’t change yourself radically, don’t adapt a style you can’t see yourself wearing just because a friend is wearing it or a salesgirl said you looked sexy in it. You have to learn how to “feel right” in your new clothes and how to please yourself and realize that by working on yourself can turn your life upside down and people will look at you differently and your own attitude, self-confidence, and personality will shine through.